Making the transition from childhood to adulthood can be like walking a tightrope, and teens need someone there, a parent or other strong role model, to help them find their footing and steady them as they cross over.
When my children reached their teens, I tried to guide them through the decision-making process, but then I'd have them make their own decisions. They'd often try to get me or their mother to make the decision for them, so they wouldn't have to take the blame if things went wrong, but I would tell them, "Don't ask me. You know what's right and wrong. What do you think you should do?" Afterwards they were usually glad that we made them decide, because they knew that was the way it was supposed to be and it helped them feel trusted and respected, which is a very important thing at that age.—David Brandt Berg